28-year-old boyfriend snaps at 25-year-old girlfriend for continually showing up an hour late when they make plans: 'It's disrespectful of my time and everyone else's'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 30, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Ahh, the throes of young love. When you're young and dating, petulant coping mechanisms and behavioral patterns may speak louder than your ability to handle delicate situations with tact. In the story below, the couple has an issue about time. The narrator and boyfriend complains that his girlfriend is always late, therefore making him late. And he says it's not a few minutes, it's nearing an hour. I can really understand him. I absolutely hate waiting around for people, and it can be really stressful when you know an event has started, especially something like a dinner, and you know that you're missing out on things. It's definitely disrespectful to everyone's time and energy, especially the partner. 

Push comes to shove when she makes him an hour late to a birthday dinner, and they show up when everyone is already eating. He tries to talk to her about it, but she brushes it off as a cute and quirky aspect of her personality. He doesn't agree, and he tells her so. 

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    AITAH for snapping at my girlfriend because she's always late and makes us look bad?

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    I (28M) have been dating my girlfriend (25F) for a year. She has one habit that drives me insane: she's always late. Not like 5
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  • Waiting around for late people is definitely one of my pet peeves. It's infuriating and a waste of everyone's time. I had a best friend once who was always an hour late, and it can become really embarrassing not only to wait around, but then to show up late. 

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    minutes late, I mean 20, 40, sometimes even an hour. Doesn't matter if it's dinner with friends, a family event, a mobie, whatever.
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    At first, I tried to laugh it off, but it keeps happening. Last week we were going to my friend's birthday dinner, we were
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    supposed to be there at 7. She was still in sweatpants doing her makeup at 7:15. We showed up at 7:50. Everyone was already eating.
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    I got ped and told her straight up: "You make me look like an idiot showing up late to
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    everything. It's disrepsectful of my time and everyone else's".
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    She said I was being controlling and "making a big deal out of nothing". To her, being late is just "her personality".
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    I don't think it's quirky, I think it's rode.
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    Full_Pace7666 • 14h ago Start going to things without her when she isn't ready. NTA
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    Zestyclose-Height... • 13h ago Nta. just leave without her. she can show up on her timetable if she wants.
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    foilrat • 11h ago "I am leaving at X time." And then leave at X time.
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    If you're meeting for dinner at X time, get there, get seated, wait a few and order food.
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    paganliam 14h ago This is never going to change. Are you really prepared to spend years like this?
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    Otherwise_Sun_25 • 13h ago I had a friend like that as well ans she thought it was funny until she stopped getting invited to events.
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    • New-Lifeguard-94... ⚫ 14h ago NTA, but this isn't going to change. You're right, she is ride and has zero respect for other people's time. She
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    obviously thinks this is not a big deal (which it is), so you are going to have to decide whether or not you can just
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    put up with it. But, you aren't wrong that people are judging you right along with her. That whole "guilty by association thing".
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    If you want to keep dating her, then every time you two have something to go to, I would start telling her, "We
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    have to be there at [time]. So we need to leave at [time]. If you are not ready by then, I am leaving without you and you can
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    find your own way there." It will absolutely her off, but you are showing her that you are not willing to live by herr de "personality quirk".
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